Posts Tagged ‘same-sex marriage’

D-Day and Meet in the Middle: An Equality Week Recap

Wednesday, June 3rd, 2009
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Equality week was insaaaane!

The decision came down Tuesday morning, and though it wasn’t a surprise, we were pissed.

First stop, the Latino Equality Alliance rally in East LA. Hundreds of people showed up in the middle of their work day to express their anger and disappointment.

Next stop: the night rally starting in West Hollywood. Speakers included the amazing Dan Choi, Reverend Eric Lee, Drew Barrymore, and Kathy Griffin. Celebrities, gays, and straights marched together down Santa Monica and stopped at the Matthew Shepard square for a moving tribute to the victims of hate crimes. Marchers stopped in their tracks and went silent as they examined the faces of the victims of homophobia and took the time to lay down white flowers in front of the memorial.

Thousands of us marched from there all the way to Hollywood and Highland stopping traffic along the way. We took some time to sit-in and grabbed some chalk and wrote out our messages and feelings about prop 8 and made our way back to West Hollywood.

Saturday was the day we had all been waiting for as people actually looked forward to traveling to Fresno. The morning began with a symbolic march from Selma as hundreds marched the 16 miles from Selma all the way to Fresno including Reverend Eric Lee.

The marchers came just in time for the start of the rally and were met by a deafening roar of support from the awaiting rallyers. The crowd of 5,000 were honored with speeches by the leaders of this movement and was capped off by an emotional and motivating speech by Meet in the Middle organizer Robin McGehee followed by Cleve Jones.

Sunday morning’s Leadership Summit provided some informative and helpful polling information to use in the fight ahead. The room was packed with over 250 leaders.

Sunday evening, the “Still Standing in the Middle for Marriage” group had their counter-rally at city hall. We headed there for a “loving witness”. I took pictures since I can’t pretend to love them and I didn’t want to go off on the fuckers. Our people held signs like, “I love my gay parents” and “Straight Christian for Equality” and “God Bless You”. We killed them with kindness and bubbles and had some very meaningful conversations. Though we didn’t expect to change any minds, we were visible and sent a certain message that we’re not going to disrespect you (because we’re better people than you) but we’re not going away.

Unfortunately there were a group of rogue reactionaries who ran around screaming “bigot” and being disruptive thus undermining our message. Poor form. Then our car got keyed with “Yes 8”. That was not cool.

All-in-all, we came together and expressed ourselves and fueled up on each other’s energy for the fight again. Viva la revolucion!

Why I’d Like to Return My California Marriage License

Wednesday, May 27th, 2009
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Though my wife can be a terror at times, I still like keeping her around as my spouse. This is also despite the fact that Andy Pugno of “Yes on 8” fully expects us to divorce: “if California goes as Massachusetts did after legalizing gay marriage, a substantial portion of the still-recognized gay marriages will be dissolved by divorce within a few years.”

No, I want don’t want a divorce; I want to return my marriage license. I’m now an owner of a document and a part of a system that specifically excludes a segment of the population, specifically my queer brethren. I’m ashamed to be a part of the California marriage system, and I want nothing to do with it until this discrepancy is fixed.

You see, my wife and I got illegally married back in 2006, and for all intents and purposes, that is our wedding date. When the California Supreme Court in all their wisdom opened their door to same-sex marriage, we of course jumped at the opportunity to claim the equal rights, responsibilities, and recognition that had been due to us.

Us and our legal paperwork.

Us and our legal paperwork.

We were proud to be two of the 18,000 gay married folks that made it before the election. After the election, we were naturally devastated and out for justice. It has never been just about our individual marriage, it was always about the larger ideals involved. So when the decision came down Tuesday morning that upheld inequality yet left our marriage intact, I was still disgusted. I remain disgusted and find no solace in the “well at least you’re still married” comments.

I want out, and I want out now. I will not be a part of a system that separates me from others because of identity and I will certainly not be a part of a system that makes me one of the lucky few just because I filed my paperwork before the election.

We’re sending my marriage license back to the state with “Return to sender. Broken system. Please send back when fixed.”

(This is done with the permission of my terror of a wife Melissa.)

Prop 8 is Upheld and 18k Marriages Stand

Tuesday, May 26th, 2009
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Speaking as a legally gay married person, the fact that my marriage still stands doesn’t mean shit to me unless everyone else can be married too.

We have a war to win now, the first step is today, get to the streets and PROTEST!: www.dayofdecision.org

Stay tuned for the next steps after today

The Decision Comes Down Tuesday! Here’s What You Need to Do!

Friday, May 22nd, 2009
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The Decision will come down regarding Prop 8 at 10:00 am Tuesday from the CA Supreme Court. Here’s what you need to do in chronological order (Win or Lose!):

Too lazy to read? See Matt’s video guide:

1. 10:30am Lambda Legal Press Conference. The legal team will brief us on the results, what it means, and what we need to do next. Lucy Florence Cultural Center, 3351 W. 43rd Street, L.A., CA 90008.

2. 12-3:00pm Rally at the L.A. County Marriage License Office. The Latino Equality Alliance is hosting this rally and civil disobedience act (if the decision is negative). 4716 East Ceasar Chavez Avenue, L.A., CA 90022


3. 7:00pm Rally & March in West Hollywood. March with SYD carrying our banner (see below photo). Meet us at the corner of Santa Monica Blvd. and Robertson! For more information, contact Tom at tom.desimone@stonewallyoungdems.org.

It will be a big ‘ol rally reminiscent of the rally the night after the election. Corner of Santa Monica & San Vicente, March to Hollywood & Highland. (if you can’t make it to WeHo in time, meet us along the march or at Hollywood & Highland around 9:30 pm.)

    Bring:
    - White Ribbon to tie White Knots all along our march
    - White Flowers to lay in Matthew Shepard Human Rights Park
    - White Chalk to write messages in the road and on the sidewalks
    - Wear White to show our unity in supporting same-sex marriage
    - Signs and bullhorns and anything else to make noise

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4. Go to Fresno on Saturday! Meet in the Middle 4 Equality. We’re all going, and you should too. 1:00 pm, Fresno City Hall. For more information on where to stay, and what to do, see the MITM site.

And bring cans of food to donate to Fresno’s tent city!

You can kick off your road trip with a free gas card thanks to FAIR at the LA Launch Event & Rally. 7:30 am Saturday at the Los Angeles County MTA, One Gateway Plaza, L.A. 90012. Behind Union Station, Downtown.

What are you waiting for? GO!

New York Assembly Predictably Approves Gay Marriage Bill, Senate Next

Wednesday, May 13th, 2009
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Tuesday night, the New York Assembly approved a bill introduced by Governor David Paterson supporting Gay Marriage. The bill passed overwhelmingly 89-52. Five Republicans voted “yes” including Janet L. Duprey who credited her shift from a “no” vote in 2007 to neighbors who are a lesbian couple.

Nathaniel Brooks for The New York Times

Nathaniel Brooks for The New York Times

These brave Republicans defied party lines despite threats by the Republican Party:

The Conservative Party is also applying pressure: it has threatened to strip its party affiliation and its ballot line from any politician who votes for same-sex marriage.

“We can’t look the other way,” said Michael R. Long, the party’s chairman, who added that he had informed the Republican leaders of the Senate and the Assembly of his threat to take away the Conservative ballot line — which in some elections can mean the difference of thousands of votes — from anyone who votes yes on the bill. – New York Times

This time, a veto from the governor is not what we’re worrying about, it’s the State Senate. The original bill passed in the assembly in 2007 and died in senate. Senate Majority Leader Malcolm Smith has stated that he will only introduce the bill if he knows he has the votes for it to pass. They need 32. So it appears that the timeline for New York is up in the air depending on how much support Smith thinks the bill has in senate.

Taking bets: Who’s next for marriage equality – New York or New Hampshire?

PS – Mad props to Empire State Pride Agenda who is doing the hard work including a new ad campaign starting tomorrow.

Maine House of Reps Passes Gay Marriage Bill

Tuesday, May 5th, 2009
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Happy Cinco de Main-o!

On Top Magazine

On Top Magazine

After the Maine State Senate approved LD 1020, the gay marriage bill in Maine, the House approved it with an 89-57 vote today.

The house rejected an amendment which would have brought the issue to voters.

Washington D.C. Council Votes to Recognize Gay Partnerships

Tuesday, May 5th, 2009
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Washington D.C. will now recognize gay marriages from other states thanks to a unanimous 13-0 12-1 vote by the D.C. Council. Marion Barry wanted to redo the vote because he didn’t realize what he was voting on before (wtf?) and changed his yes vote to the sole no vote.

Storm Front Approaching in Maine – Senate Passes Marriage Equality Bill

Thursday, April 30th, 2009
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Today the Maine State Senate voted to pass LD 1020, the gay marriage bill in Maine. The bill passed by a narrow 20-15 vote and will now be sent to the House. At the same time, the senate rejected an amendment that would have brought the bill to popular vote in the state. Seems like state legislatures have seen the mess Prop 8 created and want to avoid that train wreck.

Maine recently held a highly attended public hearings to discuss gay marriage.

Maine is racing New Hampshire to become the 5th state to crawl out of the puritanical 50s.

New Hampshire One Step Closer to Marriage Equality

Wednesday, April 29th, 2009
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This morning, New Hampshire moved one large step closer to legalizing same-sex marriage. The NH State senate approved HB 436 by a narrow vote of 13-11.

The bill now goes through a procedural vote through the House (where it already passed) because of slight wording changes.

Mr. gay marriage bill will then be sent up to democratic governor John Lynch to sign off on or veto. He has not indicated yet which way he’s going to go though he did make this statement last week:

I still believe the fundamental issue is about providing the same rights and protections to same-sex couples as are available to heterosexual couples,” Lynch said in a statement Wednesday. “This was accomplished through the passage of the civil unions law two years ago. To achieve further real progress, the federal government would need to take action to recognize New Hampshire civil unions.

photo by Marc Nozell

photo by Marc Nozell

If Lynch does sign off, New Hampshire will become the fifth state to allow same-sex marriage. The bill would also ban heterosexual marriage and make New Hampshire a haven for heathens and a target for earthquakes, lightning, and locusts. That’s the logical progression of events right?

Maine Public Hearing Discussing Same Sex Marriage

Thursday, April 23rd, 2009
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About 4,000 gave up their day Wednesday for a public hearing at the Augusta Civic Center to discuss same-sex marriage bill in Maine.

Thousands of proponents came out in red shirts to voice their opinions in support of a gay marriage bill.

Pat Wellenbach/Associated Press

Pat Wellenbach/Associated Press

The hearing lasted all day and was highlighted by Trenton Sen. Dennis Damon, the author of the bill (LD 1020) who stated that it “recognizes the worth of every man and woman among us.” wmtw.com

Opponents wore buttons stating: “marriage is not broken and does not need fixing.” Maybe they haven’t seen the memo or heard of Brittney Spears or even Rudy Giuliani.

Now the bill heads to the Legislature’s Joint Standing Committee on Judiciary who will take their recommendations to the legislature.

The future of the bill, which has more than 60 sponsors, is uncertain. Gov. John Baldacci, a Democrat, had opposed same-sex marriage, but now says he is keeping his options open. The Legislature, where Democrats control both houses, can pass or reject the measure, or send it to the voters for a referendum. If the Legislature passes the bill, citizens can collect enough signatures to place a people’s veto of the legislation on the November ballot. – New York Times

They’ve got a long way to go, but today was a positive start.